I forget I forget I forget all the time!!!! I know that when it comes to other people I can speak to their aloneness words of comfort or whatever but I am not to judge. Sometimes I think I am doing a person a favor by saying here is what I think is going on with you. I swear this person has helped me so much. She has said, dont tell me what is wrong with me or tell me what to do. As great of a listener I think I am I have done that all the time with her. If someone needs to change at any given moment it is me, not her. I say you confuse me by saying one thing and then another. Well, that doesn’t matter. That is going on to the judgement side. I can say, I am here for you if you want me to be. When it comes to others I can speak to aloneness but when it comes to something they are doing that I don’t like that is none of my business, unless they are intending to hurt me. I swear I have learned a lot from this person.