I remember when being trained as a counselor they said, whenever you feel like you have lost your way go back to listening. That is the foundation. Listening, reflectively listening to the person. What are they saying? How do they feel? What does what they are saying mean to them? Go back to that and you will find your way again.
Sometimes in life I feel like I am lost. I thought I would be doing this and I am doing that? And worrying about myself. Man I hate that. Worrying at work and all that stuff.
I am thinking for me that love is for life what reflective listening is for counseling. What is one thing you can do where you can’t go wrong. I remember as a pastor there would be something I needed to say to someone or do. Some approach I needed to take, maybe something hard but truthful I needed to say and I would start to get afraid of their reaction. I would just say to myself, this comes from love. Let your love win over your fear. Don’t worry about what they may say or do to try to hurt you. And I did get hurt bad one time. This is no guarantee that you won’t get hurt but it is all I can think of.
I have fear in their but I also have much compassion, much compassion and that can win over fear if I let it. If I start work with, my job is to love these people, my bosses, my co-workers, even and especially the ones who are harsh and even bully me. Yeah, I have been in this frickin job a little over a month and that has happened already. And especially loving the members. When I started this job I asked the interviewer what motivates you about your job. She said I am not as much in contact with the members as before, but helping them is what motivates me. So pretty much on that alone I took the job. And maybe that is how I find my way when I feel lost. My fucking truck broke down a month and a half ago and my medicine still isn’t right. Well, my job is still to love, and I can do that with a messed up truck and not quite right medicine.