what I have learned from cognitive therapy is that i believe all of us pretty much all of us all of the time are believing lies. what i mean is cbt addresses distorted thinking: some of the distortions are generalizing, catastrophizing (one of my favorites), fortune telling, another one of mine, and about 8 other distortions where we are telling ourselves things like, no one likes me, i am a moron….lol…maybe i am but anyway, things will not work out for the good this time, i will never be successful and make a lot of money in a job, i am not attractive enough to find someone who will love me for who i am……..and the list goes on doesn’t it……you fill in the blank of what yours are…we spend a lot of time punishing ourselves with all this shit that isn’t true. if you want to know how to challenge your distortions and what yours are get the book in the title of this article. he will teach you how to challenge your distortions with the truth. not the truth but YOUR TRUTH. and i have had success doing this with clients, one guy was picked on a lot a school and beleived that because he was skinny kids picked on him, i did the healing of memories technique that i have described earlier that addressed this distorted thinking and he ended up believing the truth about himself which was something like, there was nothing wrong with him but the people that had the problem were the bullies, not him. and think of how these lies limit us: agoraphobics won’t leave their homes, anorexics won’t eat, people do jobs or find partners way below what they deserve or are worthy of because of the lies they tell themselves, that’s all bad self-esteem is really, just lies we tell ourselves that are not true………….truth is we are all doing the best we can on any given day…..that is what i believe anyway. so keep being your beautiful self with all that you uniquely have to give the world and stop believe that shit you are telling yourself……….what is your truth? my truth is that i am handsome, smart, have a great personality, likeable and have lots to give to my friends and to people i have never met yet but i believe that i will keep blessing the world with the person that i am. that is some of my truth, and sometimes i struggle to believe it. i think, what do i have that someone else doesn’t have, and our lies are filled with emotion and we believe them, they are hard to challenge, so what lies are you believing, what is the distortion you are runnining on or distortions with that particular lie and what is YOUR truth about that lie.